Let me change your mind.
- Andrea Tsen
- 11 hours ago
- 8 min read
Same Hustle, Different Game
How to be a man from a woman's perspective.
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Knowing what I don't want, shows me more clearly what I do want.
which is quite literally the opposite.
Rules of the game :
Don't be scared of the dark.
You can't change people | you can change yourself.
Ignorance is bliss - sorry to burst your bubble.
Balance means there is an equal exchange in giving and receiving.
You are the voice in your head.
If you're not in control of your body, your body is in control of you.
Once you know what you're capable of - it's your responsibility to tame it.
What are the subject titles again?
Darkness
Clinging
Ignorance
Excess
Forgetting
The Body
Rage
And the seven sins?
pride, greed, lust, envy, gluttony, wrath, and sloth.
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Let's start with the basics, which is to form an essential foundation or starting point :
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“Good Health and Intelligent Physical Care are the foundations of all beauty.
We want :
Lovely skin
Shining eyes
Beautiful smile
Loads of pep.
Daily bath + brush your teeth.
Beauty sleep - 8-9 hours.
Well balanced diet.
Exercise, preferably outdoors.
Practice good posture.”
And that’s it. 👏🏽
Now let's talk about the dark side of the feminine.
When I was in high school I saw a video interview with p*rn star Jenna Jameson.
I thought she was the most beautiful woman I'd ever seen and put poster of her beside my bed.
This is the one. 👆🏽
This is the interview. 👇🏽
She was promoting her autobiography, How to Make Love Like a P*rn Star, which I still have beside my bed.
I noticed a difference in the way she was spoken to and direction of questions conversing with a man versus another woman.
In both, I admired her honesty and self-containment.
Contrast, is what creates a possibility of choice.
If I only know one thing, I only have one option.
If there are other people doing it differently, that means there is more than one possibility.
When I know what I don't want,
I know more clearly what I do want.
Contrast is to show a noticeable difference between two or more things when compared.
I think it is important as women that we reclaim our sexuality.
I don't think sexualizing ourselves by showing, sharing or using our bodies is the way to do it.
When you are selling images or experiences with your body, that is sex work.
It is craaazzzyy to me, that in the western world where opportunities are endless, we are choosing to take this path and often label it as sexual freedom.
If we could expand our perceptions just a little wider, we would realize that we are incredibly lucky to have more choice than we think.
I'm not against the p*rn industry, in many ways in can be educational.
Online versions of sex work are much safer than in person interactions.
A movie filmed with other actors who respect each other's boundaries is different, than young girls exposing themselves in their bedrooms to be lusted over and essentially used by mostly creepy old men.
Watching for entertainment is different than being addicted to the point that men are choosing their online fantasies versus the real life experience.
It's sad to me that, usually because in past experience they've been hurt or abused, people are choosing to stay uncommitted while sleeping around and calling it freedom.
Sharing your body with someone because you like them and you want to experience a deeper connection, with them, is not the same as sharing your body because it's a option to get an advancement.
And dating a man for his wallet is essentially still exchanging sex for resources.
Men have been controlling women through sex for centuries, signing up to be used willingly is not empowerment.
Lastly, if you are putting yourself into a vibrational match with this type of man, you are not a vibrational match for the good guys.
"Where are all the good men?"
They are in a different industry.
Let's go deeper.
🙋🏽♀️ My mom showed us this movie as a child. The woman singing is the character of Mary Magdalene
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"The "seven demons" most commonly refer to :
The Seven Princes of Hell
In the New Testament, the Bible mentions that Jesus cast out "seven demons" from>> Mary Magdalene, though the specific identities of these demons are not detailed in the text."
I think the reason I can talk about this is because I did not grow up with religion.
However I've always prayed.
My most common prayer was asking for forgiveness.
When something was out of my control, I thought to myself what I could have done wrong that was causing it. I begged that I wouldn't do the bad thing again if God would help fix my problem.
The problem resolved every time.
And tbh I still do the bad thing.
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Think back to a time you wish you chose different.
What happened?
What were the circumstances?
Now think about the person who hurt you.
Imagine this was an experience you had to go through, no matter what, it was bound to happen.
Imagine you came to this embodiment knowing that you signed up for it.
The purpose is to find the lesson, so you can get to the next level.
The one who hurt you - what's your opinion of them now?
✍🏽 My memory happened at 15 years old. I never held a grudge against the person.
I am grateful for what I call UNIVERSAL INTERVENTION, which is where the all powerful forces only let you go so far, then interfere for your greater good.
And I never held a grudge because I saw my own part in it and felt that he was hurting too.
I was confused.
And frustrated.
What's wrong with me?
Why isn't it working?
Why can't I have what I want?
Thinking of the person who hurt you -- what if they were a spiritual partner?
Meaning, imagine they were meant to be on your path, working alongside, guiding you in the direction you had intended for yourself, helping you learn the lesson you were assigned.
Someone had to be "him"
are you happy with the one you got?
I'm good with mine.
I get along best with what I call "masculine minded" women.
>> They are typically the ones who had to learn early how to take care of themselves.
They know how to be a girl, yet think like a man.
I know very clearly when I'm in my masculine and when I'm in my feminine.
I can tell by the way I talk.
The masculine side comes out direct, energy is more intense, straight to the point and feelings are put aside.
I can shift back into my feminine by softening my voice, calming my energy and putting my focus to listening.
It's the balance of both - from both partners - that I believe creates safe and forward moving communication.
I have an unpopular opinion I want to share.
I see from a wide range perspective that includes multiple points of view.
I see problems that we are globally dealing with, and a lack of answers to solve them.
The reason for that I believe is, we are afraid to speak our thoughts out loud.
"If you even think about another woman with lust,
it's the same thing as cheating."
-Justin Bieber
Here's my unpopular opinion --- I don't think that's true.
I think that's a man made rule which goes against instinct.
It's just a thought.
>>>>THE PROBLEM
is when we don't know how to control our thoughts,
and we allow our thoughts to control us.
I genuinely believe in the goodness of people.
I think in many cases, we hurt others while not realizing we're hurting them.
I know that sounds naiive, or like, "how could they not see, know, realize"
Everyone's in their own head - honestly.
Their story is their reality - regardless of what those around do or don't do.
Your thoughts, your story, your life.
I wish we could flip the script and women would see their bodies as sacred.
I wish girls were raised that sexual empowerment is holding it close.
"men will pee on any tree"
Unfortunately most of us aren't special.
Unless we make ourselves special.
Instead of hoping he won't leave - be someone he can't leave.
You know what else is crazy?
Girls are out here taking their clothes off hoping it makes them stand out.
What actually makes you stand out, is showing interest in someone else.
And they love it because it's rare.
Most women aren't looking at what she can do for him, because she's too focused on what he can do for her.
Also, you can't fight instinct.
It is a primal reaction for men to think of women sexually - it has to do with reproduction.
Let's not make him wrong for it, rather get ahead of it by being aware.
As women, it is our choice how we choose to dress.
just know, when you wear the low cut top, he is going to see you sexually. He can't help it.
Images will naturally move into his head and you'll see him light up because his body's response to the thought is arousal.
which is :
A state of being awake and alert, with increased heart rate, blood pressure, and sensory alertness. It's human nature and not a bad thing.
The difference between a man who is a danger or not, is whether he is in control of his thoughts, or if his thoughts are in control of him.
Meaning,
The story he tells himself and how he chooses to act on, or not act on, the thought, tells you if he is a safe person.
The problem, is not the thought.
The problem is the lack of awareness when the thought is f*cked up,
and the inability to control his own impulse.
I believe, the solution to our problems is to become self aware.
And to take it very seriously, what you are consuming.
Who's leadership are you following?
Have you taken the time to really decide if your choices are aligned with your hearts true desire?
Stop looking at all the problems because we're hyper focusing on the contrast.
The point of experiencing what we don't want - is so we can better decide and move towards, make real, what we do want.
Men, in history, have made a lot of bad choices.
However, rejecting or making them feel useless is not the answer.
Have we forgotten the saying
"behind every great man is a great woman"
Which says that man's success is often due to the crucial support, encouragement, and contributions of the women in his life, such as his mother or wife.
🙋🏽♀️ I think, seeing a man's potential and mentally holding him to that standard, with love and encouragement calling him forward, is how we both win.
It's not about controlling, rather holding your own expectation that challenges him to control his own life and decisions.
Let him be the man, just first make sure he's connected to and following his heart.
Men and women actually work really well together.
Our natural strengths balance each other perfectly.
We were not designed to compete with each other, we were created to complement one another.
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